This isn't mine, I didn't write it, but it is 100% how i feel at all times with my friends or other random people I see them complaining about long distance relationships. Nothing against them, and I know that no matter how long you are away from someone you will feel lonely and miss them, but try being in this situation and than lets talk. And I am in NO way complaining because I love my Marine more than anything in this world and dealing with deployments, and being away from him for long periods of time comes with the relationship and I knew that from the beginning. I wouldn't change a single thing about our relationship, I'm just tired of people thinking they know what it's like when they are only away from there S/O's for a short period of time, and a time in which he/she is in no immediate danger. However, like the end of this poem states, "before you think you have a clue, I pray you never will".
It isn't easy, but in the end it's completely worth it.
(I hope no one takes offense to this, like I said.. I have nothing against people who say they miss their S/O's when they are away because I know that any time apart from the one person you love more than anything is extremely difficult, I am just simply stating the difference in a military relationship and a "regular" long-distance relationship.
It isn't easy, but in the end it's completely worth it.
(I hope no one takes offense to this, like I said.. I have nothing against people who say they miss their S/O's when they are away because I know that any time apart from the one person you love more than anything is extremely difficult, I am just simply stating the difference in a military relationship and a "regular" long-distance relationship.
"I hear you say "I understand, its hard"
You appreciate the sacrifices made, support our troops and freedom isn't free.
I wonder if you really know the sacrifice.
As you lie in bed tonight, your husband by your side.
Your imagination might make you wonder what you would do in my shoes.
What would it be like, being all alone?
The week he went away on business doesn't qualify you to say you know how I feel.
The summer you saw him 4 times while you were dating doesn't come close to the days that drag on for me.
Every night I crawl into an empty bed.
I stretch to catch the breeze in the heat of the night,
yet still would give anything to have that warm body next to me.
I stare out the window, sleep far away.
It hasn't been a week, and oh to only be apart for a month.
Its been 4 months since I last saw his face, and it will be another 3 at least before I again hold him in my arms.
Before I feel the comfort of his body and hear the softness in his voice.
I pray each night that he will be able to dodge bullets,
see that bomb buried in the pavement.
That he won't be caught in the wrong place at the wrong time.
I wonder if I'm doing enough. Does he know how much I love him?
I'm scared to find the memories that slip away, no matter how I try to keep them fresh.
Have you looked at a picture and cried, realizing you no longer can imagine how his hand felt in yours?
Do you long to hear a laugh as it fades further and further out of your memory?
Does a gentle whisper seem like a dream to good to ever come true again?
I don't know how to explain it, and I pray you'll never know.
So please, before you say you think you have a clue, pray you never will."
love always,
Semper Fi Sweetie, :)
I totally get what you mean when it comes to people not really understanding. Although it is not my significant other who is military, I grew up in a military family. My dad would get deployed and people never understood what it was like for their parent to be deployed to a war torn country. They would always equate it to their parent being on a business trip. My dad missed my high school graduation because he was deployed to Iraq for six months and a lot of people thought I was a baby for being upset about it. I can also understand how you would get annoyed when seeing people complain about long distance. My boyfriend was 800 miles away for four and a half years and I only saw him every four to six months if even, and people who saw their significant other every two weeks would complain about how much they missed them. I definitely get that I would feel even worse if he was military and deployed though.
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